Love is a Choice
Warning, serious post ahead. It’s ok, since I haven’t had a really serious one lately, right? Into every life a little rain must fall, so they say. This is true in all areas of out life, I think: our kids, our work, our marriages. It’s just not always peachy and pleasant, and sometime a quick peek at a marriage counseling directory may be the best thing you can do for your future. I’ve said for years that love is a choice, not an emotion. Sure the emotion is nice, but the emotion is not going to keep you committed when things get tough. Choosing to love someone has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with you.
You know, I could go on about this for another 300 words, I think. But I also think the rest of what I have to say on the subject would fit best on Midlife Musings. Perhaps I will continue it there.
This post isn’t autobiographical in nature, nor is it directed at anyone I know. Somethings just need saying, and so I did.
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I’ve re-read this post several times … The last year has been rough on me … ups and downs in a relationship I put my all into … only to keep having my heart broken … and always without any real answers … that’s what I hate the most I think … not knowing “why” … having no real closure … I don’t believe that love ever ends … it just changes sometimes … I’ll always love him … but this post is helping me realize that it wasn’t me … he had some issues … it still hurts though …
Vicki, thank you for leaving a comment. I am sorry that you are in such pain. One of the good things about realizing love is a choice is that you can also realize you are not responsible for the choices others make. God Bless!